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3 Points: If you find ur kid’s handwriting ugly

The author, like many parents, noticed that their child, Fama, was writing numbers in a peculiar and messy way. However, the author refrained from correcting her immediately. Instead, they reflected on a few important considerations:

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3 Points: If you find ur kid’s handwriting ugly

Like most of you, my eyes too got struck on those dizzy numbers.

Numbers are flipped horizontally and vertically.

Moreover they look ugly too.

The moment I saw this, I had an urge to correct my five-year-old Fama.

In between the moment of that visual stimulus and my response to it, I got few precious seconds to think about it.

Before Correcting a Child’s Handwriting

Following are those thoughts that helped me in choosing my response.

Three Thoughts That Changed My Response

  1. She requires some fine motor skills to write accurately. In regards to her age, she is not expected to have such motor skills. Only around the age of seven, we can expect fine letter formation from a child. That too vary in kids due to different reasons.
  2. This is not the time to teach her letter formation because at this moment she is mesmerized by the world of numbers and madly in love with solving sudoku problems. Any negative interference from an adult will have a detrimental effect on her interest in numbers.
  3. Connecting mathematics with the ability to draw lines and curves is not good for her young mind. This may mislead her to identify herself as bad with numbers, which she is not.

In the end, I’m happy about my child’s interest in numbers rather than being upset about her inability to produce fine strokes on a paper.

So I simply watch and enjoy her doing it.

For a more grounded frame, child development and fine motor skills and evidence-based parenting approaches offer useful context.

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Choosing Response Over Reaction

Those few precious seconds mattered.

They helped me move away from instant correction and closer to a calmer way of parenting.

That shift is part of choosing your response before reacting to what your child is still learning to do.

Updated on February 16, 2024

FAQ

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What is the core message of "3 Points: If you find ur kid’s handwriting ugly"?

The author, like many parents, noticed that their child, Fama, was writing numbers in a peculiar and messy way. The post frames the issue through everyday parenting choices and family dynamics rather than abstract advice alone.

Why does this issue matter according to the article?

According to the article, this matters because the way adults respond shapes a child's emotional safety, confidence, and willingness to stay connected while learning.

What practical takeaway does the article leave readers with?

The practical takeaway is to slow the reaction down, stay curious about what is happening underneath the behaviour, and choose guidance, connection, and consistency over pressure, punishment, or comparison.

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